Through the movie 'The Intern,' we explore the characteristics of adults who open their hearts and how to build good relationships across generations.
Backed by Choi Min-sik's outstanding acting skills, his ability to shed his strong existing image and transform into a new character brings fresh excitement to the public.
Dr. Oh Jin-seung praised the meme as incredibly well-made, noting Choi Min-sik's acting ability to convey the intern's situation just through his gaze.
Choi Min-sik's intense gaze, contrasting with the original character's kind and warm image, sparks fresh and delightful imagination for a new intern character.
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Psychiatrists, who communicate with patients of various ages, adopt an attitude of sincere questioning and listening to their concerns. The key is to encourage patients to open up and share their stories.
Communication often begins by asking about the other person's favorite games or interests, broadening the scope of the relationship. When listening sincerely with such an open attitude, patients unknowingly start discussing their concerns, he explained.
The biggest characteristic of adults who open people's hearts is an attitude that doesn't judge or criticize others' stories. Others open up when they feel confident that whatever they say will not be criticized.
Rather than premature advice, it's important to listen carefully and wait patiently. This helps the other person recognize problems and find solutions themselves.
It's also necessary to have the flexibility not to be overly swayed by the other person's pain. An attitude that calmly views the situation without emotional upheaval provides stability.
This begins with allowing the various emotions expressed by the other person without criticism.
The core is a communication method that effectively embraces the other person's emotions and re-organizes them into language they can handle. This ability is considered a crucial quality for good counselors or mental health professionals.
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When judging others based on one's own experiences, this can be wisdom or prejudice. To avoid becoming a 'kkondae' (a condescending older person), it's important to have one's own firm standards while not imposing them on others.
Like Ben in 'The Intern,' it's crucial to lead by example through actions rather than words, naturally becoming a role model. The attitude of not forcing anything on others is the boundary between a 'kkondae' and a wise adult.
A prime example is Ben in 'The Intern,' overcoming the emptiness of retirement by taking on an entry-level intern position as a challenge.
It's important to have a mindset to start anew, not being trapped by thoughts like 'I've done so much, I can't do this much.' Mental health and flexibility are closely related; psychologically flexible people adapt and grow well through change.
It's a place that gives the feeling of being accepted for who you are, without the social mask worn in public life.
Within such relationships, one gains the confidence that even showing vulnerability will be accepted. A healthy and good relationship is reciprocal, where you become the same safe base for the other person.
'Mindfulness' is an important practice of looking into one's current emotions. Just as one pays attention to changes in body weight, it's necessary to pay attention to changes in one's emotions.
It's important not to dismiss feelings like anxiety or depression as useless, but to specifically recognize one's emotions, such as 'I was depressed today because of this,' or 'I was angry because of that.' People who know their emotions well can be more psychologically flexible.
Research shows that people who express their emotions in various ways tend to regulate them better. However, many patients in clinics express their emotions vaguely, such as 'average' or 'the same,' tending to avoid the energy expenditure of looking into their emotions.
Practicing 'mood labeling,' a technique to break down and name emotions, is important. This enhances the ability to specifically recognize and express one's emotions, making emotional regulation easier and leading to greater psychological comfort.
Paying attention to one's own emotions rather than others' helps cultivate psychological flexibility.
The 'cut-off society' indicates a spreading culture of severing relationships to escape the pressure of maintaining human connections. Modern people have an instinct for connection but simultaneously struggle with the fear of being hurt in relationships.
Among those in their 20s and 30s, there's a tendency to prefer goal-oriented gatherings over deep relationships. Examples include groups that meet for running in the morning and then disperse, or 'French fry meetups' where people only gather to eat french fries.
This 'loose solidarity' allows individuals to explore relationships at a safe distance and control the depth of their connections. This resolves the dilemma of modern people who want to maintain social connection while minimizing relational hurt.
In 'The Intern,' Jules' husband Matt's infidelity is linked to his loss of social identity, contrasting with Jules' success. Healthy establishment of multiple identities, such as 'someone's daughter, friend, professional, me who exercises,' is crucial for self-health.
Matt's identity appears to have been limited to 'Jules' husband' and 'children's father,' with other selves gradually disappearing. This loss of identity can lower self-esteem and lead to self-destructive behaviors like infidelity.
Infidelity is emphasized as a distorted attempt to restore lowered self-esteem, but it is an act that cannot be morally justified.
These individuals firmly believe they would never cheat, diligently exercising and working, and maintaining a regular lifestyle.
However, such strong self-conviction prevents them from avoiding or being careful in dangerous situations, instead exposing themselves to them. The root of the problem is overlooking the fact that emotions cannot be controlled.
Those who are confident they won't cheat need to maintain vigilance. Even a blindly devoted lover is still human and capable of infidelity at any time.
Being overly confident can lead to carelessness, so advice like 'be careful' is often given jokingly even to friends.
If you don't forgive, the other person will continue to reside in your mind and cause distress. Therefore, true forgiveness is an act to liberate yourself and regain peace.
Through this process, you can escape pain and protect yourself.
It's crucial to create a relationship where the new person and the previous spouse do not conflict or compete.
A healthy relationship is one where the deceased spouse holds a special place in one's heart, and the new person exists in another, non-competing space. Sharing memories with the deceased or writing letters can aid the grieving process and prepare one for new relationships.
The stereotype that love in old age is calmer and less passionate than in youth is untrue. This prejudice stems from our failure to properly understand the experiences of older adults.
Like young people, older adults also feel excited to look good for someone, checking themselves in the mirror and choosing nice clothes before a date. Conflicts such as cheating and love triangles, which arise from intense emotions of love, occur equally among older adults.
It is emphasized that the fundamental emotions of love do not change with age.
Dr. Oh Jin-seung's favorite scene in 'The Intern' is when Jules cries in a hotel and Ben comforts her. This scene shows that even successful and attractive people can sometimes cry, and they need a space to do so.
This scene also resembles a psychiatric consultation room. It's considered a scene that highlights the need for a space where one can receive comfort and solace, much like a consultation room.
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